In the last blog, I commented on how communication with Danny has never been better. Before we broke up for four months, whenever a problem would arise and I would want to talk to him about it, he would always get mad and state that he was too tired to talk about it, or didn't even want to.This didn't help our relationship. In fact, it hurt it even more. Hence the breakup. Nothing ever got resolved.
Instead, it just rotted.
The fact that we have much better communication makes me feel more guilty for continuing to be hard on him. Part of me knows he needs me to be hard, but the sensitive side of me feels sorry for him and wishes I didn't have to be. I know I have a reason to be, and that is why I haven't quit. What has surprised me so much is that he continues to put up with me. He continues to talk things through. He continues to surprise me.
I only hope that we continue to communicate. That he continues to put up with me, as I do him. And that one day we won't have as many problems to work through. I only hope that soon, I can trust him, count on him financially and we can quit worrying about the serious and just have fun. Our honeymoon stage didn't last long at all. I love flirting. I love making out. I love making love. I don't want that part of our relationship to ever dissipate, because we are not an old married couple ... yet.
But that's a whole new chapter to dwell on.
~Erin Lester
Hey girl..i definatly understand the whole no communication especially during a fight could be bad. I honestly am like danny in the sence if something was bothering me or I was fighting with somebody i was in a relationship, I would right away just nto want to deal with it. I hoped that it would just go away and I had a temper and just didnt care. Lack of commmunication is and never will be a good tihng in a relationship, but you guys have been through so much already and so early on that I know you guys are strong enought to just figure shit out. Stay strong Mader...promise me that one thing.
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